So yesterday we received the news that we are finally licensed with the state of NC for our adoption. This has been a l-o-n-g process, and we still have an unknown wait time ahead of us. The average being 18 months. We have already spent the last year and a half just to get to this point. Really, I am trying not to be impatient.
So why the journey of adoption? Some people have just been curious. Some people can not simply understand why a couple who can have biological children would choose to adopt. Well...it's not a simple answer. There is not one exact answer...and not one that is the same for the both of us.
Yep, we had trouble having Gray. But nope, it has nothing to do with that. I feel certain that if we had wanted another biological child we would have had one. We knew we were going to adopt well before we even married.
I knew before I ever even dreamed of getting married, or had even had my first kiss.
This hasn't been easy. It's scary. In many ways scarier than having a biological child. There is so much out of our control. I have often let my life just be guided and placed in the hands of God/the universe/what is sacred and this has been no different. I knew this is what I was meant to do, so I know it will work out.
This has been about meeting needs. On so many levels. Needs of waiting children. Needs of women making tough decisions. Needs of the world to reduce its human population/footprint. Needs for us to complete a family. Needs for us to be the change we wish to see in the world.
I am no savior. I am not a perfect mother.
I am someone who sees life practically...we wanted to decrease our human footprint.
I am someone who see life emotionally...there are children...babies...that need families.
I am someone who realizes that life is not black and white...whatever your stance on abortion, you have to look beyond the decision. If you are not going to support the woman, then you at least need to support the child that is born. Otherwise, what would be "pro"-
life about your stance.
We are a family excited about our journey. Excited to have a sibling for Gray. We are a family who is also scared to death. What if we don't blend as we dream? What if there are unknown, unforeseen problems that show up years from now? What if our son doesn't attach? What if...but we can't play the what if game. The fears are not for me to handle alone, and the future is not for me to know.
Luke 12:7 Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don't be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.
http://www.childrensrights.org/issues-resources/adoption/facts-about-adoption/
http://www.pbs.org/pov/offandrunning/adoption_fact_sheet.php
http://www.davethomasfoundation.org/